What just happened? Maybe you had envisioned something else? Or subconsciously had an expectation of what your birth should have looked like? Now you are here, and things didn’t go as planned. Not meeting your birth expectations can come with an array of emotions; some common feelings can be shame, disappointment, loneliness, inadequacy, or thoughts like “my body has failed me”. With time, and the right support to process your emotions around your birth experience, you can find acceptance in yourself and your story.

It is important to know that taking care of yourself is a crucial part of the postpartum healing process. Perhaps, familiarize yourself and your partner with symptoms of postpartum anxiety and depression. It may be helpful to establish a sleep plan that supports you and your partner to attempt longer stretches of sleep; it is critical for your emotional health. The possibility of struggling is very normal, so be kind to yourself and lean into your supports. Sometimes this involves creating time for yourself and asking others for help. We know that when we are able to fill our cups, we are able to properly give to others.

Baby is now here and you can’t believe they let you out of the hospital with new life! This time can be the most challenging, since you are healing both physically and emotionally from what you have just experienced through labour and delivery. This is where the common “baby blues” can be experienced. Symptoms typically begin around days 3-5 postpartum, and resolve without intervention within 14 days. If your “baby blues” symptoms are persisting beyond two weeks, it is time to seek support from a health professional.

Maybe it's not what you expected. Maybe you have a lot of questions and conflicting feelings. You are not alone in feeling this way. In fact, it’s commonly experienced; yet not talked about enough. We know because we've been there. With support, we'll help you find your way through motherhood that is unique to you!

Postpartum depression and anxiety are common, and sometimes, through no fault of the individual, elicit suicidal thoughts. If you find yourself having thoughts of harming yourself or others, phone 911 or visit your nearest emergency department.