You are likely to be curious about your potential new roles and responsibilities, and the impact on all aspects of your life, relationally, socially and financially. Thinking about having a baby can bring up past history of what your own childhood was like and maybe some fears of repeating the past. It can also allow you to think about your identity as a mother or a parent and this may lead to experiencing a range of responses. It’s a benefit to proactively think about the potential changes a baby could bring to your life.

The experience of trying to get pregnant can be all-consuming. When things don’t happen right away, it is natural to feel frustrated, disappointed, or inadequate, among other feelings. Sometimes this can lead to unhealthy patterns of thinking. You may also feel loneliness, anger, jealousy or resentment when witnessing others become pregnant. The complex grief that may be experienced can be painful as well. These feelings are very common and you are not alone.

The loss of a developing or new baby can lead to devastating feelings of shock, sadness and grief and have a significant impact on our mental health. Often you may be left feeling alone, and misunderstood by your family, friends, and others in the community.

Many of these challenges come with a feeling of loss and a decreased sense of control. With support, and creating time for yourself, you can help yourself move through this time of uncertainty.